gender? ha, yeah, i totally have one of those, definitely, there’s some sort of a gender around here somewhere, gimme a second
"GENTLEMEN, WE ARE AT WAR WITH TROY AND MUST NOT DROP OUR GUARD AT ALL"
"sir, the enemy gave us a giant wooden horse"
"oh rad bring it in"
why he lick me
i just had a huge moment of realisation in this lecture and need to tell you all right now. in the film I Am Legend, Will Smith watches the film Shrek. this means that dreamworks animation studios exists in this universe. this would mean that the film Shark Tale, in which Will Smith voices an animated fish also exists in the I Am Legend universe and I’m not sure what this means
things dependent people do that they literally cannot help:
- ask you to come online and comfort them often
- will agree with you even if they dont actually agree (a lot of lying)
- will do anything to keep you as a friend even if it starts to become so desperate and creepy
- will be very very very hurt if you completely leave them mentally
so dont you dare call someone manipulative for symptoms they cant help.
okay so this post is making me mega uncomfortable
the first and second points like. ok. the first is fair enough if they’re just requesting that you give them some support and you agree to it. the second can develop into something pretty unhealthy but it’s also fairly innocuous.
but do not start me on the third and fourth.
a person can have dependency problems and still be manipulative, and they can have them and NOT be manipulative. manipulation is manipulation regardless of motive.
if someone will ‘do anything to keep you as a friend/keep you around them’, and those anythings include isolating you, sabotaging your other friendships or things you do that don’t involve them, deliberately damaging your self-worth, any other kind of abusive behaviour that they use to make you unable to leave them, that is still manipulative. that is still abusive. you are still 100% within your rights to get the hell out of there.
if someone wants you to care about them and doesn’t care whether that makes you unable to care for yourself, that is still wrong.
it is not your responsibility to stay with a person who is manipulating you or abusing you just so you don’t hurt them. this post feels so much like it’s trying to tell people to just tolerate it, no matter how bad it gets, even if the other person knows what they’re doing but won’t stop. that’s really not okay.
a not so little mabel ♥（ﾉ´∀`）
Protester barricade in Hong Kong
i’m laughing so hard at this email i got from okcupid fuck